The Heart of it All: Creating Community

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I was spending some time with a few lifelong friends yesterday discussing plans for our futures, and the adventures we are preparing ourselves for. The excitement was ranging from new babies on their way to girls’ trips and work goals.

Then the topic of my blog came up and I was asked to explain it.  I began to stumble.

For those of you who are bloggers you may understand the trouble of trying to wrap this great big world of yours into a few words. But for those who aren’t, let me try to explain.

My blog isn’t something that I know how to explain, because it isn’t really a finished or complete thought. It is a constantly evolving, forever growing, surprising endeavor that leaves me in awe of the things that are created within it.

When asked this question “What is your blog about?” I typically answer with something like this: It’s an inspiration and fashion blog that emphasizes and advocates for social goods and ethical apparel companies. Knowing that this will leave them with a blank stare I then try to re explain. The break down happens. I describe what social goods companies are and why my heart goes out to them. The rambling leads me to try and explain why I write about them. But then I get stuck. Because this is of course what my blog is about, in short, but at the same time it’s not what it is about at all.

It wasn’t until I was told “It sounds like you’re gonna be pretty successful” that I realized just how very wrong of an answer I have been giving. The generic answer explains the what, but it doesn’t share the real story, or my heart at all.

I have never been in this for the success. In fact I’ve never even been in this to support the companies that I believe in. I am in this to tell their story. To tell your story. And mine. I am in this for the people. The relationships and community.

I am in this for you. 

When I began learning that there are people in the world who have decided to make it their life’s mission to make other people’s lives better I couldn’t turn away from them. My heart began pumping for those that are working to make a difference. I began looking for stories of women who are overseas building communities with other women. I have hunted down men who are creating sports teams with young boys in order to give them a sense of mentorship and relational foundation. I fell in love with the people who want nothing more than to be a voice for the voiceless. And my passion grew from there. My blog has, yes, become a place to speak for these people and to share their stories with you, but it has become so much more than that.

I have seen relationships develop in my own life that I never knew could have existed. A fellow blogger and I have connected across the country in a way that I only connect with a few close friends. Our monthly Skype dates are something that bring me more encouragement and empowerment than I receive from most anyone in my life. She gets me, and she gets why I do this. I couldn’t trade that relationship. I have gained a mentor who has begun walking side by side with me in planning out incredibly big life changes, and stepping up to remind me of how powerful I can be, simply by being me. My connection with these incredible companies has given me friends who are hosting me to travel and explore new cities, just so I can have the chance to build relationships and understand the community and story behind their hearts in a more real way. I have been given the opportunity to grow and learn with people all over the world all because I choose to write.

And that is what my blog is about. Building community. Standing up for one another. And being vulnerable in every sense of the word.

I am here, writing, because I hope to bring something to your life that you aren’t receiving in the social setting that is in your day to day life. Whether it be inspiration in fashion or passion, or maybe just giving you a sense of feeling like you can connect, this is why I’m here.

All I want in life is relationship. It isn’t about the number of Instagram followers, or how many times I get repinned, it is and always will be about giving you a place to feel at home.

I want to be your community. And I am so thankful to have you as mine.

So what is your life about? We all have a generic explanation of what we do, and how it appears on the surface. But I want to know the heart. After all, isn’t that really the part we should really be sharing?

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9 Comments

  • Reply
    brianna
    October 20, 2015 at 2:19 am

    As a new blogger this is very exciting to hear. A community. Together. 🙂

    http://unveiledandrevealed.com

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    Jeromie
    October 19, 2015 at 10:55 pm

    I’ve been spending a lot of time growing my faith lately, and this message of “community” has been the main focus. How to be communal with you choices, and how to be the hands and feet of Christ. Chosing to support those less fortunate any way we can. Be it through companies like the ones you blog about or helping a friend reduce the clutter in their closet. Thanks for sharing your thoughts and feelings on these ideas.

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      Kylie
      October 20, 2015 at 1:11 pm

      Jeromie I love seeing how when you start looking around the world the same little lessons are plastered everywhere. Historians, theologians, different types of religions. When we see intelligent people from all regions and all eras sharing the same concepts we need to begin embracing some truth to them. Community has certainly rang true for me as something the has been diversely taught but with the same underlying message: we are nothing without each other.

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    Sarah
    October 19, 2015 at 9:24 pm

    So good. It is a huge struggle to explain this blogging thing. Sure, some do it for the notoriety or whatever, but I’m just doing what I feel like I need to do: trying to connect and be a hand offered out, hopefully making someone aware that they are not alone. Thanks for putting your “why” in writing. Maybe I should do that, too.

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      Kylie
      October 20, 2015 at 1:06 pm

      I’m glad you were able to relate Sarah! The community and feeling of belonging is exactly what this is all about for most of us.
      Ps a friend of mine started a magazine a few months ago specifically for this purpose, to build community amongst bloggers. You might like it 🙂 belong-mag.com if you wanna check it out

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    Erin
    October 19, 2015 at 7:32 pm

    This is fantastic! I just found your blog through the Authentic Bloggers group & will definitely be reading more! I love the fashion posts and the fact that there’s so much more to your blog than just outfits. Thanks so much for sharing.

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      Kylie
      October 20, 2015 at 1:02 pm

      Thank you so much erin!! I have a huge passion for using fashion to help make a difference in the world, but that always seemed like such an oxymoron. I’m glad bemyintention has given me a place to do that, so thank you tremendously for recognizing that! I’ll swing by your blog later today 🙂

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    Krysten
    October 19, 2015 at 7:15 pm

    This is absolutely awesome and something I really needed to read today. Sometimes I struggle to explain my blog to people and I need to not do that. I should be proud and embrace it.

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      Kylie
      October 19, 2015 at 7:19 pm

      I’m glad I was able to inspire you today 🙂 don’t ever be afraid to share your heart!

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